Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Why online dating fails

I have used online dating sites and even run one for a while.  It seems everyone has bad experiences.  Why do so many people have bad luck with online dating sites?  The answer is simple.

Male Perspective

On average, for every 50 messages sent there's only one response.  The received responses are almost always from a model with an invitation to view their web cam or another site.  On a rare occasion, a female profile initiates communication which almost always an automated system or baiting.  (Baiting is trying to lure someone to another website with the promise of something.)  

Female Perspective

The ladies are flooded with messages containing penis pictures or one line messages with cheesy pick-up lines.  On average for her, every 50 messages received contains one response from someone reasonable.

Failure

The problem is on three fronts.   First, the site only cares about collecting fees and not making connections between people.  Many sites create fake profiles using pictures of models and change the location information on deleted accounts.   

Second, most good men will leave after a short period due to the lack of any real profiles and the expense of the site.  This leaves only the most aggressive males who have nothing better to do than send out 500 dick pictures and corny one-liners to random profiles per day. 

Third, most good women will leave after a short time due to receiving so many emails from jerks.  This leaves only the females who are there for some commercial interest such as web cams or pushing a different web site.

These three issues create an environment hostile to the normal people who come to the web site.   The business has no incentive to correct the problems while the money continues to roll in.